Father of the Bride

I havent explicitly said here on my site that I take up wedding/events/portrait photography assignments. But, I do. I have been updating my Facebook photography page with samples from my assignments.

What do I try to achieve while shooting at weddings? I strive to shoot moments as they are, and to find beauty as and when I capture these honest moments. I respect the space and happenings around me, I do not direct the proceedings, I do not stop the proceedings, I do not interfere; I simply observe and capture.

Of the many things I observe and capture, one of the things I do watch out for is the emotions of the father of the bride. There is a special bonding for any father with his daughter; and on the momentous day of giving away his daughter’s hand in marriage, typically his heart melts. I remember my own father from my wedding; I could sense what it meant to him … the giving away.

The following pics are from a recent wedding I covered …

Wedding Assignment - Chitra Aiyer Photography

Wedding Assignment - Chitra Aiyer Photography

Wedding Assignment - Chitra Aiyer Photography

He is being consoled by some of the womenfolk in the family.

Wedding Assignment - Chitra Aiyer Photography

As he wipes away his tears, there’s the mother watching her husband in one of his most tender moments.

Rest of the sample pics from this wedding are here – Chitra Aiyer Photography

Please Note: These pics are private property. Please do not reproduce in any form – print, media, email.

36 Responses to “Father of the Bride”

  1. I remember that moment. I didn’t catch a glance of my family because if I saw them, I knew their tears would mean tears for me. Which is why, the purohit at the wedding stepped in and told me just one thing – To look straight ahead at Abhinandan and keep a smiling face throughout. Now I know why. Thanks Chitra for these lovely pictures. We owe you one!


  2. Lovely pictures, Chitra. The bride will treasure them for years to come.

  3. I thought i replied here this morning..

    I agree on the father-daughter bond. Most of the time he’s forgotten, and the focus is on the bride, and groom and the rest of the female clan. This is special :)

    So many emotions in a short time frame :)

  4. Lovely capture Chitra :) Nice work indeed

  5. Brilliant! This is exactly what most wedding photographers usually fail to catch.

  6. Thanks Malavika.
    And I didnt know about what the purohit told you. Thank you for sharing.

    Thanks Mytri, Rads, Kits, Mumbai paused.

  7. Impressed with your capture of emotions!

  8. Thanks Biju

  9. Awesome.. This is a whole new dimension for the wedding photography. I luv it..

    And on another note, so if you take photos like this, the main wedding photos viz. the normal customs and ppl photos will have to be covered by another photographer no :)

  10. thanks, glad you like my work, Sridhar. :)

    I have done weddings all on my own, where the ppl hiring me were clear on what they wanted. They didnt want anybody else covering the wedding. But I also ask my clients to get a their own traditional wedding photographers if they so want. I have covered such weddings too, where I have shot in my style and the traditional photographer has gone on to do his thing.

    I cover rituals, people, jewelry/details and other aspects of a wedding too; the only difference is I just dont ask people to stop and pose for me. You can chk out rest of my work here – https://www.facebook.com/ChitraAiyerPhotography to get an idea.

  11. may the couple live happily forever

  12. Hi Chitra,

    Yeah, I understood the point. The photographs are just awesome. I liked the uniqueness of the genre.. Although its not new, it is not explored much in India at least. I wish you all the best for future projects to come :)

  13. heart touching snaps

  14. very beautifully captured…

  15. Hey Chitra….well captured…i had tears in my eyes too…..seriously…good one.

  16. Loved this :). My mom says my dad had tears when the thaaLi moment happened at my wedding – thankfully I never saw it, would have broken down otherwise. But there are no captures of that moment like you have been able to get..

  17. Wow Chitra….while everyone is busy concentrating on the bride and groom and wishing them, really appreciate your timely clicking of the sensitive yet fulfilling emotions of the father.

  18. Nice shots taken, Chitra.

  19. truly beautiful pix chitra.

    where were you when i was getting married? :( :)

  20. Truly amazing pics Chitra

  21. Thank you all.

  22. Hi Chitra, love your pictures, especially the ones with the bride in pain from a faulty hairpin….i love that you capture moments and not poses. Anyway, , I am passing on the Versatile Blogger award to you, which is a blogger to blogger award. As much as this sounds like a chain, its a good way to route some extra traffic towards blogs that deserve them and showcase some extraordinary talent. You can read about it here – http://photoppurtunist.wordpress.com/2011/04/28/versatile-blogger-award/

  23. Hi,

    very good pictures. The only thing that surprises me everytime is that you post pics of other people on your site with/without their permission i guess. Just like you do not want your family pics to be publicised, same may be the case for most of the public too……….right? :)


  24. Shruthi, thanks for the award. Will do the needful. :)

    Deepa, thanks. Why did you assume that these pics have been posted without their permission? :)

  25. Chitra, I haven’t assumed, I’m quite sure most of the pics that you publish, for eg. on your road trips, etc. of our folks in rural areas are taken on the go, right? Don’t get me wrong, but they also wud want to keep their lives private right, just like you do?

  26. Deepa, you posted the comment for this post. This is not street photography. And permission was asked for before posting.

    Street photography, look up the world over; that is the nature of the genre. That said, even when I am out and about and am taking portraits, I ask permission and if we get to talking, I tell them too about where I post. People are usually excited that they may be in the papers. I tell them ‘nope, not in the papers … but maybe on the Internet’. Sometimes, I have even explained what Internet is.

    Everything said, street photography is such. How many faces are in the newspapers, magazines, and Internet everyday.
    Maybe a famous story will serve as example – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Afghan_Girl

    There are many blogs/sites with people’s faces all over the Internet. One of my faves is this – http://www.stevemccurry.com/main.php It is full of faces and full of beautiful pictures of those faces.

  27. @Chitra: I’m glad you noticed and documented something most wedding photographers will certainly notice but not care to document. Society stereotypes men in obvious ways. We’re usually the strong, macho man and emotionally blank/heartless creatures when in reality it doesn’t really work that way for most parts.

    @Deepa: I think you are unnecessarily trolling on someone when you fail to understand an art form for what it is.

    For the record…

    1. When a person walks out of his house and gets to public space he/she should expect to be documented. This is both ethical and legal a standpoint that is available to the common man in almost every other country across the world that appreciates freedom of expression.
    2. If photography is restricted in a certain public places either by government or private parties it needs to be clearly displayed, with a valid reason provided for such a restriction. Most of the times the reason is security or religious sentiments.
    3. No person has the right to ask not to be documented in a public place unless… (a) The person is being portrayed in bad light i.e., sexually provocative pictures or pictures defaming the person or exposing private details like religion, sexuality, place of residence, work, income etc., or (b) they are a celebrity/VIP/Accused criminal which may compromise their safety.
    4. Any image of a person or place can be freely distributed/published unless it is for a monetary purpose or equivalent of monetary income. In such cases a model license comes into play.

    It is basic courtesy that all photographers ask for permission before taking a picture unless and until it is a candid. Even if the image is a candid, post shooting a picture many photographers seek permission for displaying the image in a public forum. Though this is not illegal to shoot candid’s it borders on ethics/morality and is extremely subjective an item of discussion.

    Most importantly, none of the above is the case here. Chitra has the right to display her commissioned shoots as per her contract. I display my commissioned shoots as well as per my contract with my clients. It’s a standard item in all of my contracts that I will decide to display the best of images for my portfolio. Neither are you aware of such details of a contract nor do you seem to be familiar with what street photography is. I would request you familiarize yourself with such items before pointing fingers at someone and calling their actions foul.

  28. I agree with Dilip. :)

  29. Well, maybe I should chip in with my two cents on this.

    I am definitely not qualified enough to talk about the photography perspective especially candids or street photography. All I know is that these are pictures from my wedding and if my photographer chooses to notice something and wants to share her perspective with the rest of the world about something she saw and felt at that moment, I believe it is but fair that she is allowed to share her thoughts with the world.

    Also, its with the way you look at it. You could look at it as a manifestation of feelings at an event – how many times don’t we see pictures displaying emotions in newspapers? It doesn’t mean their private space has been intruded. It is the perception of the photographer which has been published in a public space. You could choose to appreciate the art and thought behind the pictures or you could worry about personal space and privacy being intruded. And come to think of it – the scene ain’t new. Most fathers are emotional when they give away their daughters. So was mine!

    That said, we had given Chitra permission to publish these pictures on her blog. And knowing Chitra (with the amount of professionalism she works with), it would almost seem weird if someone told me she published pictures of people without their permission. :)

  30. When I engage the services of a professional photographer, I would like to take a look at their work to judge if they have capability to achieve what I need from them.

    A few years back (and even now), most people got their ‘professional’ work done by studios. When the customer goes to the studio, he requests for samples of what work the studio has produced, not pictures of the photographers spouse and family. Actually, no one cares about what the photographer’s family do. Some of these samples would be an extra copy of the album made, or a collection of wedding pictures from a few events – I’m not sure if these studios seek the permission of their clients before putting it up on their portfolio.

    This kind of looks like the same situation, where the photographer is not working in a studio but presenting the portfolio on the internet (with due permission, as I can understand) from the previous comment. the photographer has sought the permission of the client before displaying the work on a webpage. I wonder why it bothers other folks so much as to post a question that pokes at the ethics of the photographer, and more interestingly, talking about privacy concerns and how they should be respected, when clearly, the client does not have a problem.

    My understanding from this discussion thread is that there are people who go and ask a photographer (and maybe other employees) at a studio for pictures of their families and personal events, since it is their ‘job’ to take pictures of personal events and families of others and they have a few images to showcase their portfolio? Weird. :)

  31. Chitra,
    Don’t get upset. I’m not pointing fingers at anyone! I once read on your blog itself that you accept all types of feedback, hence took the liberty of putting my thoughts across. Like I said earlier, you take amazing pics. I was telling in general about different pics, not just this post, like the one taken from vayu vajra of some person sitting in a pushpak, etc. Anyways, this is your blog, your choice, your freedom of expression…………some people like it, some don’t.
    Let’s respect each other’s opinion and move on.

  32. Dilip,

    I just want to clarify this, you know and everyone knows that I haven’t used any foul language, so please understand again i did not point fingers at anyone nor at any photographer and i have not called anyone’s actions FOUL as you claim!!


  33. Hey deepa, you are welcome to say your opinion. But looks like you are missing the point about street photography, in spite of the many comments.

    Simply put, if I were on a vayu vajra, and if a blogger/photographer took a picture of me in the context of writing a story about bangalore/bus travel/public transport, then he/she can do whatever he wants with the picture. I am just in a public space. That is all. But anyway, I don’t even know if you got a chance to read what I said about street photography earlier.

    There comes no question of liking/not liking, since the genre is itself such. But of course, you are welcome to like/not like whatever you want. :)

  34. These are wonderful photographs, Chitra. They made me remember my father’s face at different stages of my own wedding.

  35. Hi Chitra,
    i was looking for a good paediatrician in bangalore when i came across your blog.
    i am iranian and married to an indian and studying blogs like yours helps get to know more about lifestyle and other matters. thank you for sharing your experiences. i also live in bangalore. all the best to you and your family.

  36. this reminds me of the moment vch everyone has to paas thru……even me…. n makes me realize how parents always sacrifice n holds d ocean within them wd a smile on their face…….i love my parents!

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