I believe everyone goes through a journey when we lose our someone special. Just remember that, there are others in this world who are here for us. They are those people whom we have to make happy and who will make us happy..
We learn it the hard way.. But, it stays for life long with us. I learnt it four years back.. I can’t forget him yet.
Comment by Bhavani Krithivasan — June 22, 2009 @ 6:09 pm
Hi Chitra, my father died 10 years ago last week. I think your thoughtfulness and reflection will help you on your journey through this. I can tell you that the whole first year can be pretty tough as you encounter all the “firsts” without him — birthdays, holidays, seasons. But the worst is behind you now.
I remember coming across your photostream on Flickr about 6 months back when you shared the sad news of the departure of your father. It seems to me like that happened more than a year back. Certainly, time is relative. But it is also the healer. The void that your father left is no longer empty. The stories, the happy times, the sad times, the unconditional love he showered, the anger to correct everything wrong, the wisdom… they all replace the empty space. The void is now filled with memories and as long as they are there, he continues to live on.
The post is laced with so many emotions that your undying love for him emanates out of it. It is a very fitting tribute to him.
Luf, thanks for stopping by. Hugs.
My dad would have taken immense pleasure to be around for all of the kids’ events, activities. He would have been enthusiastic about every little thing they are likely do. But it is what it is.
Sudhamshu, thanks for commenting. Yes, time is relative. Love, I guess, that is the one thing that will stay unchanged.
Thanks!
It is true we realise what we are missing once we really miss them. no doubt when u see one dear suffering certainly one feels his suffering should end. no one wants to loose dear and near but still dont want to see them suffer too. life is like that. we miss we add we get on
time and tide waits for none like the tick tick of a clock second gone is gone for ever.
what we have lost we can not get back but certianly we can make the loved ones presence by following all good things and practices of them. this is within our own hand to see that they are literally with you all time
have a gr8 time and my salutaions to your DAD
Hey Chitra,
I was deeply moved after reading your blog.
I can perfectly understand, it’s been 3 years since I lost my dad. Now I only think of his happy days that keeps us moving.
It’s a void….but it also makes you stronger without you realising it.
It’s just that we learn it the hard way.
Trust me, the memories will always to be there and we just need to smile
Chitra,
I just came across your post recently. I lost my father in May to cancer and am still coming to terms with the loss. I would like to start some sort of service in B’lore to help cancer patients and families deal with the tremendous suffering both mental and physical that they go thru. When my father was suffering we felt that there was not much counselling or advice given by the doctors even though my father was a doctor himself.
Please get in touch with me by e-mail and let us talk further.
Geetha
Hii manni,
I believe everyone goes through a journey when we lose our someone special. Just remember that, there are others in this world who are here for us. They are those people whom we have to make happy and who will make us happy..
We learn it the hard way.. But, it stays for life long with us. I learnt it four years back..
I can’t forget him yet.
Comment by Bhavani Krithivasan — June 22, 2009 @ 6:09 pm
Hi Chitra, my father died 10 years ago last week. I think your thoughtfulness and reflection will help you on your journey through this. I can tell you that the whole first year can be pretty tough as you encounter all the “firsts” without him — birthdays, holidays, seasons. But the worst is behind you now.
Comment by Luf — June 24, 2009 @ 3:19 pm
I remember coming across your photostream on Flickr about 6 months back when you shared the sad news of the departure of your father. It seems to me like that happened more than a year back. Certainly, time is relative. But it is also the healer. The void that your father left is no longer empty. The stories, the happy times, the sad times, the unconditional love he showered, the anger to correct everything wrong, the wisdom… they all replace the empty space. The void is now filled with memories and as long as they are there, he continues to live on.
The post is laced with so many emotions that your undying love for him emanates out of it. It is a very fitting tribute to him.
Comment by Sudhamshu — June 24, 2009 @ 5:32 pm
Bhavani, hugs dear.
Luf, thanks for stopping by. Hugs.
My dad would have taken immense pleasure to be around for all of the kids’ events, activities. He would have been enthusiastic about every little thing they are likely do. But it is what it is.
Sudhamshu, thanks for commenting. Yes, time is relative. Love, I guess, that is the one thing that will stay unchanged.
Thanks!
Comment by Chitra — June 25, 2009 @ 4:06 am
Such a heartfelt post Chitra. Time is so hard to judge in a situation like thia. Hope the memories grow stronger with time and the pain reduces.
Comment by shalini — June 28, 2009 @ 3:30 pm
It is true we realise what we are missing once we really miss them. no doubt when u see one dear suffering certainly one feels his suffering should end. no one wants to loose dear and near but still dont want to see them suffer too. life is like that. we miss we add we get on
time and tide waits for none like the tick tick of a clock second gone is gone for ever.
what we have lost we can not get back but certianly we can make the loved ones presence by following all good things and practices of them. this is within our own hand to see that they are literally with you all time
have a gr8 time and my salutaions to your DAD
Comment by praneshachar — July 4, 2009 @ 3:51 pm
Shalini, thanks.
Praneshachar, thanks for your thoughts.
Comment by Chitra — July 11, 2009 @ 4:25 pm
Hey Chitra,
that keeps us moving.
I was deeply moved after reading your blog.
I can perfectly understand, it’s been 3 years since I lost my dad. Now I only think of his happy days
It’s a void….but it also makes you stronger without you realising it.
It’s just that we learn it the hard way.
Trust me, the memories will always to be there and we just need to smile
Comment by Biju Chandroth — July 13, 2009 @ 5:08 am
Chitra,
I just came across your post recently. I lost my father in May to cancer and am still coming to terms with the loss. I would like to start some sort of service in B’lore to help cancer patients and families deal with the tremendous suffering both mental and physical that they go thru. When my father was suffering we felt that there was not much counselling or advice given by the doctors even though my father was a doctor himself.
Please get in touch with me by e-mail and let us talk further.
Geetha
Comment by Geetha — August 27, 2009 @ 1:42 pm